Updated on December 20, 2013
TMI on Twitter
At the end of the summer my first book with be released. It is a short non-fiction book about Twitter, specifically “Learn to Tweet in Ten Minutes”, published by Batsford Books.
Today we were all reminded how important it is to master the art of Twitter, when the Daily Mail published the tweets between actress Melanie Sykes and her new man, who she met on the social media website.
“… smitten Melanie wrote: ‘Jack the rabbit I need some bunny love so hop to it!! Xxx boing boing!!! Loooooool xxxxxxx’.
He replied: ‘Only if I can bounce into your face! Xxx’, to which she asked: ‘Will you fill mine? Xxx’.
Melanie later sent flirty tweets about the colour of her underwear and referring to his manhood she said: ‘If its a winkle me & you are not gonna get on Lolx’.
Mel apparently later said, “It really is just some light-hearted banter and nothing serious. He’s a great guy, we’ve only recently started dating and like any new romance it’s exciting and you can often get caught up in the moment.”
Yes, that is all very well, Mel but you know that there is such a thing as TMI.
I can’t believe that she did not know that these tweets would be seen by anyone who followed both her account and that of her new man. For anyone new to Twitter, this is something that you should learn in the first weeks of using Twitter.
My advice is always, “If you would not say it in RL, don’t put it on the internet”. Everyone who uses Social Media websites such as Twitter, Facebook or has a blog should think carefully about how much of their private life they wish to reveal. Particularly on Twitter, where mistakes cannot be easily rectified. Once the <tweet> button has been pressed, there is no way to recall the message. You can delete it, but if someone has already RTed, ie. passed on your message to their followers, then you lose control of your message.
In the case of a person like Melanie, journalists are lurking to take screenshots of those embarrassing tweets, no matter how fast you delete them.
You might not mind your tales of sexual adventure being on the web for all to see, but your children, your mother, your granny might. These tales are then out there forever, and anyone who googles your name can find them. Even a future employer, who might learn a bit more than he bargained for about the applicant he had googled.
For all our sakes, keep some of your private life private.