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    Who Will Believe Me, If I Don’t Believe Myself – Kelly’s Story

    Kelly contacted me to ask if I would tell her story. She has never told anyone before. I believe you, Kelly.     (TRIGGER WARNING)     As a completely naive and rather lonely 16 year old I was invited to a boys house for dinner. I was spotty, had zero self confidence and was really rather delighted to be asked to such a grown up affair – the boy was in my year. I did not really know him. The week before I had kissed him at the only party I had ever been to and I was so shy I had got drunk to share my first kiss with him.…

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    Who Will Believe Me, If I Don’t Even Believe Myself – Part 2 – Gwen’s Story

    The last post seemed to have touched a nerve. Already, within a few hours of posting it, I have had two emails from readers with similar stories. Their tales are heart rending, and rage inducing. And very thought provoking. How many women have a “sexual encounter” in their past that they have put chalked up to naivety and inexperience, or to a bad decision? How many of us look back and think, “Actually, that was not  a consensual encounter. He *knew* I did not want sex”, but at the time were pressured into it. How many were made to feel guilty, that they had led him on? How many were taken…

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    Who Will Believe Me If I Don’t Even Believe Myself – A Guest Post

    (Trigger Warning)   During the discussions on Mumsnet over the past few weeks, as the #WeBelieveYou campaign got under way, many many women posted their story online. Some of them were telling their story for the very first time, while others had talked to friends and family, or seen a rape counsellor. Some were still scared and wary of starting a new relationship, others were happily married or co-habiting. Every story is different, and every story deserves to be heard and to be believed. Many women have returned to say that being told “I believe you” has helped them immensely. Tears have been shed, on both sides of the computer screen,…