• Parenting

    Sex Ed and Enthusiastic Consent

      I posted yesterday about women who find it difficult to believe that they had been raped, and since then other women have come forward to say that they too have been remembering incidents that they had pushed to the back of their minds. I have been thinking of moments in my life, that I had put down to a bad decision, which I now can see differently. I was not raped, but I was coerced into doing more than I felt comfortable doing. The women confiding in me were talking about incidents that happened in their teens or early twenties. They are older and more experienced now and are able to…

  • Feminism

    MYTH: Rape Can’t Take Place In an Ongoing Relationship

    MYTH: Rape can’t take place in an ongoing relationship   It has not been so very long since women stopped promising to “love, honour and obey” their husbands. All of my friends replaced “obey” with “respect”. The idea that the man, whether joined in matrimony or co-habiting, in any way owns or commands his partner, is now seen as terribly old fashioned. Changing the attitudes of men, their behaviour towards their partners is sometimes more difficult than swapping one word for another in a 30 minute ceremony that forms such a short part of the couple’s life together. Obey – to obey a person is to hand over power to…